What Do Mars And Venus Want From Each Other ?

Take a close look at the two planets and point out the differences :

They look pretty much the same ! Don't they? The colour, shape, pattern. Almost similar.
No matter how similar they look, they aren't all that same!
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.. They say.
They are at daggers drawn.. They say.

It's all bullshit.. I say.
We have all through these years seen pictures, videos, messages gone viral, depicting women; as a species, tough to be understood.

 

I, being a women know for a fact that it all depends on communication. There is no such thing as "difficult to understand". It's all how you decide to deal with a person. Be it a man or a woman.

Now, to get better grip on how to ease out thing between your man or your woman there a couple of things you must keep in mind. [ few of these points are based on my personal experience!]

First thing first, know that Men and Women have one thing in common, and that is : they are both homo sapiens ! probably, all the other differences is what keeps them together!

1. We must acknowledge that the brains of Men and Women function differently. We must also accept the the shortcomings.. acceptance leads to better understanding of one's own self.

There are certain things that come naturally to us.
for example:

Men can never find anything in the refrigerator or cupboard.
Women find it impossible to read a map.
Men will always leave the toilet seat up.
Women always know when their men lie to them.
Men will never ask for directions on the road.
Women would cry at the drop of a hat, on being asked the reason: she wouldn't know why she's crying?
Men can do one thing at a time.
Women are great at multitasking.

There are some wiring errors. Some manufacturing defects.
The sooner we come to terms with it and learn the art of dealing with it. The better.

Here is a view of the male and female brain :
No matter how much you question it's credibility, heart of heart you accept the humor and fact that lies in this picture!


The Male Brain :

The Female Brain :

 ( courtesy : Authors, Allan & Barbara Pease )

The first time I read it, i was in peals of laughter! I read it out to my husband too! Initially he was in denial. He asked me for scientific proofs regarding the same. I didn't pay heed and continued to read.. after a while he started smirking too!
we know the truth! this is how it is!
there may be variances in the sizes of these sectors, but they are right there! always! since forever!

2. Women are intuitive, better observers! Men do not pay attention to non-verbal signals :

husband : Is everything okay my love?
wife :Yes, everything is fine!
 [ Fine confirms , that it is not fine : but husband doesn't read between the lines. ]
husband : Did I do something wrong?
wife : I don't want to talk about it!
[ after awkward silence.. ]
husband : Babe please tell me what's wrong? I don't know what I did to upset you!
wife : OK then, I'll tell you even tough you're playing dumb.
[ In this given situation, when a man says he doesn't know.. he actually doesn't!! He is NOT acting dumb ]
wife : that bimbo was fluttering around you all night, giving you signals - and you were encouraging her!
[now the husband was clueless about it!]
husband : which bimbo? what are you talking about?
[ he hadn't noticed the body language of that so called bimbo, which showed that she was attracted to him ]

Women, Male brains are not equipped to handle such signals. That is why most men have difficulty in picking up girls! Give them that leverage here. Go easy on them at least in these matters.

3. Women never get caught ogling at other men due to a higher quality peripheral vision, Men however.. we know their plight. ;) They have a tunnel vision :

Men 0 - Women 1 :P lol

4. According to a man, woman hides all his things. Truth is, man can't see it even if it's kept right in front of him,

also, men cannot bear to see things kept in order and in their right places!


[ Personal Experience ]

Women, no matter how messy his cupboard gets, no matter where he places his wallet, keys (that he cannot find them) let it be there itself, at least he wouldn't blame you for keeping them in the "right place"

5. Men cannot read the emotions through the tone, it takes practice and years of experience. Women are very sentimental.

Women speak your mind and heart out in their faces! they will never catch signals! Men are simpler to understand. They never beat about the bush, mostly they are about sex. Not their fault! They are wired that way!

Men, when your lady cries.. just hold her tight! wait till that bout of shedding tears is over. Ask them what the matter is and listen patiently..They will tell it to you. DO NOT LOSE YOUR COOL AT THEM WHEN THEY CRY!










 
6. The woman always knows. Even when you think she doesn't. She knows! Do not lie to her. Yet, if you wish to.. make sure you are talking to her on call or if not, the lights are off! and you have hidden yourself in a quilt.

Men there is no point in hiding anything from her or making excuses! she knows, she doesn't have to snoop around. she gets to know - just like that -

7.  The woman knows what she wants. She just wants an approval.

Men, when she keeps two options in front of you, and asks which one to wear/buy , do not give an answer, rather tell her, "have you decided on one?"she will start off with which one to buy and why to buy it.

There! she had already made the choice. She didn't want an opinion. She wanted a confirmation!

8.Women need unpacking. Men are cold storage. At times they shut off too!

Men, understand that women want to express themselves at the end of the day. Don't give them solutions. Just lend them an ear.

Women, when men are quiet.. let them be. There are times he doesn't want to talk. Don't try to talk to them at that time! that's when they have Shut Out!  IF YOU STILL WANT TO PROCEED, I'D SAY *CAUTION: 10,000 VOLTS*


9. Women give silent treatment!

I know it would be heavenly for you, but...


Men, if it exceeds 9 minutes. YOU ARE IN DANGER!

10. Men vs. Women : how they think

Women, DO NOT over think! Men don't always think about what you think they do!

11.Women admit their mistakes but, Men are never wrong.

[ surprised??] haven't we always thought the other way?

men, it is okay to accept that you are wrong. it leads to self-improvement. your women can also be right at times!


12. Sex :
All men love it. Some women too. Most women have headaches.

Men use sex to express physically what they cannot express emotionally or verbally. They are mostly all about it!
Women feel closer to her man through this act, it's like re assurance of the love he has for her.foreplay, cuddles, words are all important to her when at it.


13. Men Unhappy vs. Women Unhappy :

women, when he's unhappy at work, he cannot concentrate on relationships.
men, when she's unhappy in her relationship, she cannot concentrate on her work.

 Everyone is unique. We as two different genders, vary in our nature and approach. However, we cannot stay without each other too!
When there is love, there ought to be sensitivity to each others feelings, moods, likes and dislikes.
When there is love, there is communication.
When there is communication, there arises no question of "Not Understand Him/Her"


[ REFERENCE : Why men can only do one thing at a time and Women never stop talking by- Allan and Barbara Pease ]