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"O Stigma", why dost thou yet exist?





‘Social stigma is the disapproval of, or discrimination against, a person based on apprehensible social characteristics the purpose of which is to distinguish them from other members of a society. Social stigmas are commonly related to culturegenderrace, intelligence, sexual preference and health.

As Plato wrote in The Laws, a dialogue on the ethics of government, ‘if anyone is caught committing sacrilege, if he be a slave or a stranger, let his offence be written on his face and his hands’.

The word ‘Stigma’ finds its origins in a Greek word stig-, meaning to prick or to puncture, that means, a type of marking or a tattoo. Something that was cut or burned into the skin of criminals, slaves, or traitors in order to visibly identify them as morally polluted persons, in medieval times and even before. These individuals were to be avoided particularly in public places. Stigma may also be described as a label to form a stereotype.




 How in Nazi Germany, The Jews were supposed to wear a cloth around their arm with a Star of David, to demarcate them. Even as we read The Merchant of Venice, we see how The Jews were confined to ghettos and made to wear the Judenhats at all times. How in India the Shudras and Harijans were cursed with untouchability and couldn’t even draw water from a common well. In many states this despicable practice still persists. Mass exodus of kashmiri pundits, Mob lynching of muslims, raping the missionaries, atrocities on the Dalits, denial of accommodations in many places, physical assaults, insults, side glances or sneers and comments towards are brothers from North East India, are some of the things that we’ve made peace with. Cornering the minorities on the basis of their race, religion, ethnicity in Latin America, Africa, Middle East, Bangladesh and world over, is something that doesn’t hit heavy on our conscience because it isn’t us.

 Some of us rebel, retaliate and speak up. Some of us aren’t vocal yet resist quietly. All I’d like to say is, if you’re quiet, neutral about any wrong that you see happening in front of you, you are choosing the side of the oppressor.

We were all brought up in a racist, homophobic, unequal society, but some of us grew up and thought for themselves and unlearned it. There is no excuse for you to continue being that way in 2020. You were raised that way? Quit blaming your parents and quit being a prick about it. Take responsibility for your own actions and unlearn. It literally isn’t rocket science. You know why it is important to talk about such things, as much as others might think it is controversial? Because, if you don’t you’re simply another hypocrite who just blabbers on the gram, says stuff like, “we’re all in this together”; from a goddamned yacht and goes back to their cozy, coddled life.



It is important to understand that a stigma may affect the behavior of those who are stigmatized. Those who are stereotyped often start to act in ways; that they who stigmatize, expect of them. It not only changes their behavior, but it also shapes their emotions and beliefs. Members of stigmatized social groups often face prejudice. These stigmas put a person's social identity in threatening situations. Like people of a particular community or a gender not being given employment or equal opportunities, health care.

Erving Goffman defined stigma as 'the process by which the reaction of others, spoils normal identity'. The three forms of social stigma according to Goffman are:
(1) stigma associated with mental illness;
 (2) stigma associated with physical deformation; and
 (3) stigma attached to identification with a particular race, ethnicity, religion, ideology, etc.

Let’s see some of the stigmas that still prevail in our so called ‘educated, modern’ society:


  1. Stigma around people suffering with HIV- AIDS
  2. Stigma clouding conversations about Mental Illnesses such as OCD, PTSD, PMS, Schizophrenia, Anxiety, Depression, Eating Disorders.
  3. Homosexuality & your sexual preference
  4. The Physically disabled
  5. One’s Skin tone
  6. One’s Nationality/Ethnicity
  7. Your Religious beliefs or lack of them
  8. Your Intelligence & people suffering from dyslexia/ADHD /dyscalculia/autism or other such conditions
  9. Your Profession & lack of dignity of labor
  10. Your Gender & expectations thereof, your masculinity or femininity
  11. Victims of rape/molestation or acid attacks
  12. Menstruating women
  13. Masturbation
  14. Substance abuse


The list is extensive.

                                     

For those of you who may have been bullied into questioning yourself and your self worth because of any kind of stigma looming over you, I hope the following could help in any way:

·        Get treatment, medicines, therapy: whatever helps
·        Resist urges for self-doubt and shame, you ARE so much more than the stigma they’re using to define you
·        Don’t isolate yourself, it is never a good idea
·        Join a support group to share and unburden
·        Ask your community for help, a mentor, your teacher, a friend, your family
·        Speak out against stigma, educate others.
I’d like to end by just saying that, each one of us is fighting an unknown battle, the least we can do is be kind to the other. It won’t kill you.

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The images are not mine, but taken from a google search.

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  1. A very important topic to be discussed and understood..thanks to your articles that these concerns are being shared because we all know it but we don't discuss it... beautifully written again.. :)

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