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Can we do without standards?

As I sat at a 4.4 Zomato Rated Restaurant  at Udaipur for a fancy luncheon, sipping on  my Cosmopolitan, I realised just how casual or negligent everyone has become in today's rather competitive world. I sat there cribbing to my husband about the sheer negligence of the bartender. First things first, they served the drink in the wrong glassware (the cardinal sin, that is!) then, they put an outrageous purple straw in it like it were some kind of lime soda (what the hell man!) And last but not the least, what's a Cosmo without a Lemon Wheel ?


My husband thought that I was over reacting as though I was some sort of a food critic or that I expected a bit too much out of a third world city like the one we currently live in. I mean okay, I agree with that 'cause I came up with that line (LOL) but, considering that this third world city attracts so many foreign tourists, shouldn't the restaurants with 'Cocktails' on their menu must at least have the respective glassware and know the standard presentation, at least? Now, is that too much to ask for?
Certainly, I wasn't a food critic but as a food lover, I think I'm qualified enough ;)

Was I wrong in expecting my Cosmopolitan to look the way it should?
Is it wrong to have a certain level of expectation? Or
Can we do without the standards?

Personally speaking, I am a person who believes in setting a standard for everything. I exactly know the kind of people I would gel comfortably with, the kind of clothes I would like to buy, the kind of situations I would not be comfortable in etc. etc. Those standards have been tried and tested and have been therefore implemented. This does not imply that I am snobbish, No.Honestly, I give everyone a chance, if they blow it off; Their bad! We've all reached such an age and stage in life that the lesser the drama, the better the life. It means that in my 26years of being alive, I know what kind of people would love me best and vice versa. Also, Isn't there a kind of behaviour you expect/ do not expect out of another person? That is a standard you set my dear. So that's that.
Similarly, when I behave in a certain way, both in personal and professional relationships; I expect a certain standard in return too. As far as I think, it is only fair. There is nothing wrong in having expectations. Everyone has them. Even those who say they don't!


When we talk about expectations, in relationship it stems out of what the other person has done/does for you and when it comes to the places where the other party does not previously know you ? Such as your expectations at a Hotel, Cinema Hall, Restaurant, Spa, Bakery or Take Away Joint? They'd be based on reviews, previous experience or a certain standard that you expected out of it.
Setting standards and having expectations only ensures that the product or the service is perfect or near to perfection. Setting standards help us out perform ourselves, help us achieve our targets, help us grow, help us realise our actual worth and potential. (This doesn't just apply to services, also applies to personal relationships. After all, why does a problem arise between two people any way? Only when actions aren't reciprocated and one is taken for granted or when words aren't said and actions aren't performed.)


It is only through the eyes of the perfectionist that the world knows what the best taste likes, looks like, feels like...only because, someone out there stuck to a certain standard and made sure it met the world's expectations!
Similarly, if there were all rules, all Aamir Khan Jr.'s the world would actually be quite dull, so no doubt we do need the other kind of people too, the unconventional, non-perfectionist, carefree race who wouldn't mind if they're Cosmo came in a Beer glass rather than a cocktail glass.


The world needs balance. Just as there is good; there's evil to balance it. In the same way, the carefree balance it out with the careful, the dreamers match it up with the realists and the non-perfectionists have to equalize with the perfectionist. The world needs a love affair to remember. I cannot think of a one better than this, where two such strong forces collide and combine with such passion.

There, that's my balance restored!



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