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Being Married...




*Wedding bells ring!*
 


You are now pronounced Man and Wife!

You both then walk down the same aisle, which you walked up separately. Now, together you embark upon a journey of a lifetime. Anxious, excited, nervous.. both of you have a multitude of emotions and thoughts going through your head. Never getting out in the field again. Committed for life to one person. Sharing everything. Confiding in each other. Being open and honest, asking for each others opinion in matters. Prioritizing everything. Being faithful and knowing your limits. Realizing that you are married. Learning how to be married.




There is so much to being married.. than just the fancy that everyone sees. There might be times when you re think about your decision to get married too! Maybe it was too soon! I wasn’t ready for all this. The responsibility and all that comes along with being married. That’s perfectly normal. Just share your thoughts with your better half and you’ll realize that within seconds it all gets okay! :D We all make mistakes and then learn. Both of you will take some time to let it sink in that you’d be looked upon as a matured couple: man and woman. No matter how kiddish you may be between the both of you! :) ;) Learning how to manage and yes, letting no third person affect your relationship or letting them have a say on anything to do with the both of you! ( unless, it is a very serious matter, of course! )

Remember that every marriage is unique. Every couple has a different chemistry, and different way to deal with each other. The worst you can do is to compare your better half with someone you admire or you know or another couple. You both will discover a way of your own, which just the both of you will understand and the others don’t even need to get it! Trust me. Of course, I know that there are expectancies that the both of you have from each other..but, give it time. It does take time to get to know each other.. I mean even couples who have lived for 25 or 35 years together keep getting to know things about their partners so! There’s a breather right ? :) And yes, eventually you both will gel together but: it will not happen in 6 months or an year.. gradually. Initially it will be like: I don’t like this! I like this, and I will do it even if it annoys you. It’ll be like two immiscible liquids put in a beaker. Gradually, it defies the immiscibility and start mixing till you can’t differentiate one from other [ that’s when they say, couples start resembling each other ;) ]



 
There would be times when you get sick of doing the dishes, cooking a meal and then planning about the next one, sweeping – swabbing, doing laundry and all that. [ of course, modern man will help you :) but, he can’t do it everyday! ] You’d be like: really, that’s what marriage is all about? I was better off unmarried. It is understandable :) but, then you realize what joy it gives to you when you cook something for him, when you keep the house pretty and he likes it and appreciates it. There would be days when you wouldn’t feel like cooking and he’ll say let’s order a pizza! There would be days when you’d feel low and he’d get you ice cream or a chocolate when he comes back from office to cheer you up. There would be days when you both would go out for coffee dates and long bike rides. The joy of knowing that you don’t come back to an empty house from work. The feeling that you get when you cuddle up, rolling over to the other side of the bed- and there he/she is to snuggle. The love you make, the roads you take, he’ll / she’ll know the smile you fake. You know there is someone there for you always! Watching movies together, singing along to each others song, you could be yourselves in front of each other and know that your partner will not judge you. Wear anything Come back late night from parties and just sleep peacefully snuggled up, be completely sloshed – wasted  and fool around, trips, birthdays, anniversaries and, most joyous moment- when you build your own little love nest … in our case do crazy stuff; wear similar minion shorts –or a batman & superman t shirt! :D So much fun when you are not alone!



You need to find the magic charm: that works for your marriage…and, make it work for real! Always remember that it is very easy to break a relationship, but so much to difficult to build it. Always strive to build it and no matter how hard it gets: try to work for it unless, you have been wronged, grossly wronged… try to talk about anything that bothers you, sort out matters and I’d say rather than bringing either side of parents or siblings into the scene… talk to a counselor. 

Lastly, be honest and sincere with each other and you will realize what a fun journey it turned out to be! Days, months and years will go… you wouldn’t even realize how they just flew by!

Together Still…
Let me hold your hand, as we go downhill,
We’ve shared our strength, and we share it still,
It hasn’t been easy to make the climb,
But the way was eased by your hand in mine.
Like the lake, our life, has had ripples too,
Ill health and worries, and payments due,
With happy pauses along the way,
A graduation, a raise in pay.
At the foot of the slope, we will stop and rest,
Look back if you wish, we’ve been truly blessed,
We’ve been spared the grief of being torn apart,
By death or divorce, or a broken heart.
The view ahead, is one of the best,
Just a little further, and then we can rest,
We move more slowly, but together still,
Let me hold your hand, as we go downhill.

❤

Finally...
Although, everyone has their own yet.. :D

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